top of page

The Enigma of Choice

I have been asked on more than one occasion, "If I could choose any other disability other than blindness, what would I choose?" Each time I’m asked this question, I've struggled to find an answer. It's not a question with a straightforward response, for the simple reason that all I know is being blind.

As a person who has been blind for over 30 years and visually impaired for almost 30 years before that, my life experience has revolved around adapting to the world without sight. I've developed a unique set of skills, a heightened reliance on my other senses, and a deep appreciation for the world's sounds, textures, and fragrances (although some fragrances I don’t appreciate). My identity is tightly woven with my blindness, making it impossible for me to imagine another reality.

When asked to choose a different disability, it assumes that I can fully understand and weigh the implications of living with something other than blindness. I cannot! As a person without any frame of reference, I can't truly grasp what it means to be deaf or have a mobility impairment, or any other disability. I can empathize, offer support, and share similar perspectives of individuals with other disabilities, but I cannot fully comprehend their unique experiences.

The notion of "choosing" a disability is silly. Disabilities are not a buffet from which we can pick and choose. They are a part of an individual's life, shaped by complex interactions of biology, environment, and circumstance. One's disability may come with challenges, but it also comes with strengths, resilience, and a unique perspective on the world.

The question of choosing a different disability highlights the importance of empathy and understanding. By contemplating what life might be like with a different disability, I have gained a deeper appreciation for the experiences of others. It reminds me that while we may all face different challenges, our shared humanity unites us in the pursuit of understanding and acceptance.

Rather than focusing on hypothetical scenarios, we should embrace our differences and celebrate the diverse range of abilities within the human experience. Instead of asking what disability one would choose, we should ask how we can create a more inclusive and accessible world for everyone.

One common thread that ties individuals with disabilities together is the prevalence of misconceptions and stereotypes that surround us. Society often imposes preconceived notions about what it means to have a disability, leading to erroneous assumptions and limited expectations. For those of us with disabilities, this can be especially frustrating, as we must continuously challenge these stereotypes and prove that our abilities are not defined by our disabilities.

The fear of disabilities is another shared experience that affects us all. People often fear what they don't understand, and this fear can lead to social isolation, stigmatization, and discrimination. It is essential to recognize that individuals with disabilities are not to be feared; rather, they are individuals with unique abilities and strengths. By fostering understanding and empathy, we can diminish the fear associated with disabilities.

Although each disability presents its unique set of challenges, there is a common struggle in accessing public spaces, transportation, and information. We all encounter barriers in our lives that impede our ability to fully participate in society. Whether it's a lack of wheelchair ramps, inaccessible websites, or public attitudes that disregard our values and our needs, these shared access issues can create significant hurdles.

Physical barriers, such as the absence of ramps, elevators, or adaptive technology, can hinder our mobility and independence. Attitudinal barriers, on the other hand, involve prejudice, ignorance, or discrimination. It's crucial to recognize that physical barriers can be adapted or removed with effort and resources, but changing attitudinal barriers requires a shift in societal perceptions and attitudes.

Breaking down attitudinal barriers is a vital step towards creating a world with fewer physical obstacles. As we strive to build a more inclusive and accessible society, it becomes increasingly clear that addressing attitudinal barriers can pave the way for a future where we may not even require stringent laws and regulations to ensure equal rights and opportunities for all. In this transformed world, inclusivity will be a natural and inherent part of our collective mindset.

Attitudinal barriers are deeply ingrained prejudices, stereotypes, and biases that shape how people perceive and interact with those who have disabilities. These barriers are often the foundation of discrimination, exclusion, and social isolation. But imagine a world where these attitudinal barriers no longer exist, where people with disabilities are not judged or underestimated based on their disabilities but are seen as individuals with unique strengths and perspectives.

In such a world, the need for stringent laws and regulations would diminish, as the prevailing attitude would be one of acceptance and the valuing of diversity and differences. Accessibility would become an integral aspect of our built environment, and inclusion would be the norm rather than the exception. There would be no need for accessibility laws because society, by its very nature, would have embraced a fundamental shift in consciousness.

This vision does not have to be a far-fetched dream but an achievable goal. It starts with challenging our own biases and prejudices, fostering a culture of empathy, and actively engaging in open dialogues about disability and inclusion. By making efforts to understand and appreciate the unique experiences and abilities of people with disabilities, we can collectively break down attitudinal barriers.

The transformation towards a barrier-free, welcoming, and inclusive world is within our reach. It is a world where individuals with disabilities, including those like me who are blind, can participate in all aspects of life without hesitation, and where our shared humanity shines brighter than our differences. By changing our attitudes and perceptions, we can set the stage for a future where physical barriers fade away, and the world becomes a place where everyone is valued, respected, and empowered to thrive.

Recent Posts

See All


bottom of page